I recently received two powerful questions from members of my community, and in this post (and its accompanying podcast episode), I’m reflecting on both.
The first question was: “For me, when you were budgeting, cooking, and doing other things before, it seemed like homemaking to me. So what is homemaking?” This comment struck me in a way I didn’t expect. It helped me realize how my experience with childhood trauma kept me from seeing that the content I had been creating all along—budgeting, cooking, organizing—was, in fact, homemaking. I simply couldn’t call it that because I didn’t believe I deserved the title. Now, after years of healing through therapy and reflection, I’m able to fully embrace the identity of homemaker and the joy that comes with it.
The second question was: “Why does homemaking have to mean no income?” That opened up a deep conversation about my fear of balancing business with home life. I had subconsciously decided that to honor my dream of being a full-time homemaker, I had to cut off my earning potential. I didn’t want my old work habits to creep in and sabotage what I was building at home. But I’ve since realized that creating content is like growing tomatoes in a garden—it nourishes others and can still support the home. I now see that I can earn money and be a homemaker without betraying either part of myself.
This post is part of my journey in becoming the best homemaker in all the land, and I hope it inspires you to define your own version of what home, healing, and happiness can look like.
